I’M THE EXACT SAME WAY. DON’T WORRY. I had a crush on a guy for a little less than a year and I talked to him once. Trust me, I know, haha. 😂 But I’m not exactly sure what you’re asking. :/
Are you asking how you can tell if they like you when they’re shy? If so, there are plenty of links out there that you can look up. I really like this video on it (although I’m not exactly sure why- but it is helpful!).
Or are you asking something else? If you are, please just let me know.
I’d love to help, but I’m not really sure how to, as of yet. Let me know, though! ~ J
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I’m sorry for not answering as soon as you sent it, though. If I could, I would.
But I just answered your question here. :)
And don’t worry about how long your message is. If it’s a request, a compliment, a suggestion, a rant, a cute story, an imagine of your own, or a question/situation, we’re right here so you don’t have to apologize for how long the message is! ~ J
What part of this do you need help on, exactly? ☺️ I, honestly, believe that age is just a number, myself. I know people that are 10+ years apart (in their 20s and 30s or 30s to 40s and so on) and they are absolutely happy together.
The level of maturity you and the other person have is what matters.
If you’re thirteen and mature enough to be in a relationship, go right on ahead and be in a relationship. If you’re thirty-two and you’re not mature enough to be in a relationship, don’t be in a relationship!
If you’re twenty-eight and you’re in the same maturity level as a thirty-two year old, great! :) That four year age difference doesn’t matter. But, as soon as one of you is way more mature than the other, it becomes a problem. That has nothing to do with age, it just has to do with maturity.
A fourteen year old could be a better babysitter than a twenty-two year old. It just depends on how mature each one is.
I’ve known ten year old boys who are more mature than sixteen boys. That doesn’t really have to do with age. That has to do with the maturity level; how you’ve grown up; how, when, and where you were taught; etc.
Therefore, you have to be mature enough to be in a relationship in a quality relationship. (Of course there are more components to a relationship, but age isn’t always one that matters.)
If you guys are four years apart in age and you’re under the age of consent, it’s alright to date, but it’s illegal to do anything more than that (depending on where you are). Don’t break the law! Wait until you’re of legal age.
But if you’re both of legal age, go right on ahead and date. :)
Good luck and let me know what happens! ~ J
Would you like some advice on something or did you just want to rant? Either way is completely alright, and that’s what we’re here for!
If you want to get over him, I’d suggest going to our FAQ and looking through the links under Getting Over A Crush/Ex.
If you need anything, please do not hesitate to ask. I’m right here for you. ❤ Good luck! ~ J
part2 So after that I stopped paying much attention to him, he still flirts with me but I just don’t pay much attention to it. Like he was joking about how we should go on a ”date” since its my 16th in a few days. Then later on in the day I lent him my phone charger and he said thank you and even kissed me on the forehead. When he’s round our house he;ll touch me in someway, like stroke my waist as he walks past. Is he just a massive flirt ? cause if so i need to get him to leave me alone
I don’t know if he’s just a massive flirt, seeing as how I’m not him/I’ve never been hit on by him/I’ve never seen nor heard of him interacting with any other girl. But seeing as how he was flirting with you when he had a girlfriend, and how he’s seven years older than you (age is just a number, of course, but you’re under 18 and he’s older, and at least here in CA, that’s illegal).
If you think that he isn’t just a flirt, then I’d say that it isn’t really a bad thing. But if he takes it too far, makes you uncomfortable, does something illegal, or is a flirt, then I’d say that you should get him to leave you alone as soon as possible.
Please let me know what happens and if you need anything else. Good luck! ~ J
I’m assuming that this was your question: “How do you know if a guy likes you? xx”
Of course! Sorry for replying so late, love.
There are also A LOT of videos on youtube dedicated to this question and quizzes that you can take. Really, though, you won’t know unless he tells you, himself, and proves it to you.
Good luck and let me know if you need anything! ~ J
If someone’s purposefully ignoring you, I’d suggest just trying to get over him. Unless it’s obviously because he’s nervous, it isn’t a good sign (I hate to say it; I know, I’ve been there!). You deserve someone who will give you their full attention and who won’t ignore you. But that’s just my two cents.
I suggest looking through our FAQ and looking under: Talking To Them, Getting Them To Notice You, Overcoming Shyness, and/or Getting Over A Crush/Ex- whichever one(s) you feel suit you best.
If you need any more in-depth advice, please just let me know because I’d love to help! And let me know what happens. ~ J
We should write a book. ;) Haha! All of our imagines are tagged under Imagines (click on the link because I don’t think that they’re actually tagged with an “s” at the end of “imagine”). We do have an imagines directory, but it hasn’t been updated in a while and with as many imagines as we have on this blog, it’s really hard to put them all there and it’s very time-consuming, so I don’t know if we’ll ever update it. But if we do, we’ll let y’all know! ~ J
Thank you so much, oh my gosh. 😚 I’m glad you enjoy our blog.
Really, other than what I always tell people, I’d say to just not flirt with your friends, especially when he’s around because then he’ll suspect that you like your friends or you’re just a really flirty person (but still be yourself and hang out with them, talk to them, etc.- still be their friend, just try not to flirt).
And as for the rest of the stuff, look at our FAQ page under: Talking To Them, Getting Them To Notice You, and/or Overcoming Shyness.
If you need anything, please just let me know; I’d love to help! And let me know what happens, too. ~ J
Aw, thank you so much! You’re way too kind. ❤ I’d absolutely love to give you advice, but I’m not sure which part of this you need advice on. Do you need advice on how to stop crying, how to make it stop hurting (it hasn’t happened to me yet, so I don’t know if it hurts), how to tell someone, how to get him to finger you again, or all of that or something? I’d love to help, but I’d like to know which part you need advice on first. Please just let me know! ~ J
Don’t break them up. Don’t get in between them. Don’t cheat with him on his girlfriend. Those are the three main things I can suggest.
Other than those, I’d just say that you should ask him about her/if he’s dating anyone.
I’m sorry that I wasn’t much help. Let me know if anything happens or if I can help you with anything else. ~ J
First of all, good luck on your performance! I love theatre, it’s so much fun. :) I know that you’ll do great!
You should definitely ask him about drama, if that makes you more comfortable. Ask him how he’s feeling about the performance or what his favorite part of drama is or something having to do with it. Go ahead and show your inner (or outer) drama geek!
On our FAQ page, we have numerous different links. I’d suggest looking through the links under “Talking To Them,” “Getting Them To Notice You” (if he doesn’t notice you very often), and/or “Overcoming Shyness.”
Good luck, let me know what happens, and tell me if you need anything else! ~ J
This is so cute. If he’s a flirt or a really outgoing guy, as much as I hate to say it, I don’t think that it means much. But if he isn’t, then I think this could be a good indication that he likes you! ;) ~ J
Honestly, there’s no surefire way of knowing unless you ask him and he tells you and proves it to you.
But there are some questions that you can ask yourself:
- Does he smile whilst talking to you?
- Does he hold eye contact with you? (If he’s shy, does it seem like he tries or does he get all fidgety?)
- What does his body language say? (Does he face toward you with his feet and/or knees?)
- Does he laugh at your jokes?
- Does he try to make you laugh/smile?
- Does he constantly try to touch you (like, your shoulder, hand, arm, or knee)?
- Does he tease you in a kind way?
- Do you catch him look at you?
You also have to go with your gut- as cliche as that sounds. If you think that he likes you, there’s a chance that he might! There are plenty of links online that can help you decipher if his actions/words mean anything (if you’d rather me search them up for you, just let me know!). And there are plenty of other ways to tell if a guy likes you or not, at least if there’s a possibility of him liking you.
But remember, as I said earlier, you won’t know until you ask him and he tells you and proves it to you.
Good luck and let me know what happens and if I can help you with anything else! ~ J
Part 2- Before I found out that I liked me, I was messaging some other guy (b) and I really like him, hes good looking and great to talk to, then when my friend told me about ‘a’ liking me, I started to have second thoughts about who I like and honestly, I believe that ‘b’ likes me because of how we talk but then again, I do have feelings for ‘a’! I don’t know who to choose and both these guys are friends and I’m just confused! Can you please help?
Of course! We’re here to write imagines and to help y’all. If you need help, just let us know and we’re always here. :)
I’d usually say that you should go with the second guy because if you really liked the first guy, you wouldn’t also find a second guy that you like. But, in this case, I think that you should go with the first guy. You guys seem to have gone through more with each other and he’s stuck with you, even when you had a boyfriend.
But, really, it’s up to you. Whichever one you like more, trust more, and feel a stronger connection with is who I would suggest staying with.
Try to maintain a friendship with the one that you don’t like as much, though! Unless something happens so that it isn’t worth it.
Good luck and please let me know what happens and if you need any other help. I apologize for this advice being sucky! ~ J